The closest break up song i could find to reflect on what i am feeling

I Know Him So Well


Nothing is so good it lasts eternally
Perfect situations must go wrong
But this has never yet prevented me
Wanting far too much for far too long

Looking back I could have played it differently
Won a few more moments, who can tell
But it took time to understand the man
Now at least I know I know him well

Wasn't it good
Oh so good
Wasn't he fine
Oh so fine
Isn't it madness
He can't be mine
But in the end he needs a little bit more than me
More security
He needs his fantasy and freedom
I know him so well

No one in your life is with you constantly
No one is completely on your side
And though I move my world to be with him
Still the gap between us is too wide

Looking back I could have played it differently
(Looking back I could have played things some other way)
Learned about the man before I fell
(I was just a little careless maybe)
But I was ever so much younger then
(Much younger then)
Now at least I know him well
Now at least I know I know him well

Wasn't it good
Oh so good
Wasn't he fine
Oh so fine
Isn't it madness
He won't be mine
Didn't I know how it would go
If I knew from the start
Why am I falling apart

Wasn't it good, wasn't he fine
Isn't it madness
He won't be mine
But in the end he needs a little bit more than me
More security
He needs his fantasy and freedom
I know him so well
It took time to understand him
I know him so well



ok ok.. let's not get tooo overly dramatic here... i'm not falling apart, pardon for all the 'drama' with some of the lyrics in this song. AND please replace all the 'male'pronouns to the female 'pronouns'.. sorry i don't think there are many breakup songs for Lesbians :-P...

I've tried hard to find a song that could reflect on what i am feeling but i haven't been very successful.. Most breakup songs talk about yearning, or pleading for a lost love to come back.. however when you think about it,, wouldn't that be self serving? If one chooses to leave you, then you need to acknowledge the fact that they had made the conscious choice of leaving. Regardless of what the reason may be, there is no point in pleading to the person to come back when their heart is no longer there. Maybe they have found another love interest or they have just lost interest period. Whatever the reason may be, and no matter how hard it is to come to terms with it... we must need to respect that. That is part of loving yourself and the process of loving someone.. loving to the degree that you will respect their decision to move on,

In order for one to be entirely happy with someone in a relationship, one needs to love themselves first. How much do you think you really are loving yourself when you are pleading for someone to come back into a relationship when they no longer feel that way about you? Don't you think you deserve to have the right to be with someone that will love you wholeheartedly? I'm not saying this to be arrogant or conceited but rather it's about self love.

When you think about it.. we tend to always overlook this in the aspects of a relationship however in regards to anything else in our everyday lives we would always want the best for ourselves. Just think of something that are you are passionate about. For the purposes of this example we'll use the scenario of ordering food off of a menu in a restaurant. Isn't it natural that we will order what we love to eat the most ( or for those cheapos out there we would order something that would yield the highest reward for the money we are willing to spend_ :-P ) we would never say to ourselves.. "hmm.. i don't love myself very much so i will order something on the menu that i don't really like as i don't deserve it." The actions of loving ourselves in this example is by ordering food that would yield the highest level of satisfaction ..ironically sometimes in the areas relationships we don't always act in this state of self love.

How many times do you hear of people always wanting to get back together with someone that doesn't really love them... are we just
depriving ourselves of self love, thinking that we are not entitled to be loved to a higher capacity?


If they no longer love you in the way that they used to then may be they are doing you a favour by leaving you. Everyone deserves to be loved to the highest capacity. May be in their heart they know that they cannot love you in that way thus it is better to let you go than to keep you.


Please don't misinterpret that i am being sarcastic, angry or bitter about the situation.. however if you look on a higher level of things, when a person leaves you because they feel that they can no longer love you, then that is technically the right thing to do. If you tried to stay together when there are forces pulling you to grow in different directions then it would be heartwrenching for both parties. Please don't get me wrong.. i'm not one to just leave a relationship once any difficulties appear. Being the focussed, stubborn, and tenacious person that i am, i'm always one to persevere and try to find solutions to the problems.

What is tricky in situations like this is knowing when to put in the effort to want to work things out as compared to recognizing and really listening and accepting the decisions of the other person. When one party no longer feels that there is enough love to want to work things out then one needs to respect that. No matter how heartwrenching and painful the fact may be.. we need to face the truth of the matter and learn to let go without any resentment, bitterness or anger.

I'm still slowly learning how to do this.. i will have good days and i will have bad days.. but the important thing is that i know that i am heading in the right direction.