Relationships based upon Need

A fully healthy relationship should not be based upon need but the desire to be in eachother's company, to fully love this person as they are, and to share with this special someone the beauty that you experience in life.

I frankly don't believe in that 'romantic connotation' that there is such thing as not being able to exist without the presence of another individual. Rather when you have someone special in your life it just makes things more wonderful. Your happiness in life should not be dependent on having someone in life, the happiness has to come from within yourself. Simliar to watching TV. When you have someone in your life that you love so dearly you are able to see the intricacies of all the various range of colours whereby if you are watching TV alone you can still enjoy the show but you might not be able to see all the beauty of the entire range of colours.

Overall i am a very self sufficient person or rather to use a better term a 'self reliant' person, this shouldn't be interpreted that i do not need or want someone in my life. I don't feel that i am *emotionally crippled* and i certainly do have the capacity to love. I do think I would like to have someone that i can share this life with, in bad and good times..through better or worse.. Life is so beautiful and at times it might be hard however . i do want to share and experience everything that life has to offer with a person that i will love and who will love me back.

It's like looking back at a photo album of your life.. all the photos in this album are markers of time in your life... wouldn't it be beautiful to be sitting with the person you love holding their hand and gracefully flipping through this photo album called life.. and to look back at all these photos of times and memories you shared together? and when you are finished you can look into their eyes and say thank you for sharing this life with me. ok ok call me the hopeless romantic but hmm.. ok i'm not the dreamy romantic type but the happy romantic type heh heh.

Yes i may be the type of person that needs alot of space, however with the right person.. i feel that i would never want to leave her side, and being in their physical/emotional presence would give me this warm fuzzy feeling inside. When i love someone they are constantly in my mind.. they dont' have to be physically there by my side.. as they are constantly in my mind and heart, and with thoughts of her i will constantly have a smile on my face.

I do admit that i am a very independent person and i'm very selective with whom i share my time with. This is not to say that i am anti-social nor do i lack any social skills in keeping a good network of solid friends... but most people who understand me will know that i am quite capable of enjoying my own company, as it gives me time to process and reflect on things. Asides from being by myself I can only find this sense of tranquility in the presence of my special someone.

I'm currently processing the the qualities of being 'self reliant'... shouldn't that give someone more security as being 'self reliant you are less 'needy' secure, independent and focussed. I would have never strayed, nor cheat because i know exactly what i want, and when i love someone all my focus is on her.

Without this person i would rather be alone than to find the company of others just for the sake of having someone in my life. In time i know that my heart will heal and then once again i will find that someone that i can love and who will love me back.